People ask me, pretty regularly, how I came up with the name of my site, TeamJeffers. They wonder if it’s good for me and my writing career, because my site name isn’t very focused. It’s sort of vague and random, and doesn’t really tell you what to expect. Sometimes I agree, and quietly wonder if maybe I shouldn’t have come up with something more business oriented, or clever. Â Overall, though–I’m really happy about my choice. Here’s why.
I named my site TEAMJeffers because that’s how my husband and I approach our marriage. We’re a team. We back one another up, support each other, and are a constant source of defense and trouble-shooting for our other half. The world is crazy, but our home, and our relationship, provide us each with oases of support and security.
We have many similarities, my husband and I. We are both creative, loyal and extremely funny people. We are each exceptionally goal driven and business minded. We are both introverts, preferring to restore ourselves through quiet and solitude, rather than engaging with lots of people. We are both generous, quick to fight for the underdog and disappointed in the ways our world is changing.
We have profound differences, but they provide us with a perfect balance. The easiest way I can sum them up is this: If we were on a ship together, and it started to sink, we would each respond very differently. My husband Fred would work like hell to fix the leak. I would race like a madwoman to gather up all the people. Each role is of exceptional importance, but requires a completely different mindset. Merging these outlooks guarantees an almost unbeatable balance.
Fred works on the technical sides of our needs, while I work on the loosey-goosey stuff. He keeps up with the dates of weddings and things we’ve been invited to for example, while I always choose the perfect gifts for us to present. He is a computer professional, and I am….me. Whatever I’m in the process of becoming, as documented by this blog.
He is a complex man, my husband. While he is exceptionally intelligent and clever, he is also a creative. He is a musician, but even there his steadfastness is revealed. He plays bass guitar, an instrument that provides the solid background, and overall tempo for the rest of the musicians. He has room to be creative in this role, but can also be the quiet and unassuming framework for everyone else.
Which is what he is to me: the quiet and unassuming framework of my life. So if I didn’t refer to him, and our life together, in the name of my site, I wouldn’t give you the whole picture of me, and how I view the world.
Fred is also a writer, another similarity we share. He has his own site, which is mostly a place for his personal self-expression, not a network for business and whatnot, as is mine. He’s given me permission to share a special recent post. Â He lost his father a couple of years ago to Parkinson’s Disease. Watching this decline was terrible, and through this post, FredÂ was able to voice some of the complexities he felt then, and still feels now.
So here he is. My husband, Fred. The other half of TeamJeffers, and the quiet, hard-working man who provides the framework for my life.
Thank you, Fred. I love you.
‘A Note on My Father’
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**Chanler Jeffers has seen many extraordinary things over her lifetime. An adventurer, survivor, overachiever and advocate of kindness in all instances, she has been awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award by the American Chamber of Commerce Executives (ACCE), and is a member of their Circle of Champions. She has had the good fortune to live and travel all over the world, grew up as a military dependent and was a single parent for many years. She has survived cancer, and gently shaped countless people over her years on this little planet we call home. Follow along as she shares her knowledge, her experience and her love. Oh, by the way–one more thing. She’s married to a Bass playing rock star, lucky girl.