Terror, and How We Need to Respond

What a sad day, Friend. The bombing in Brussels  has not only created new wounds in our broken world, but also opened old ones. No doubt you could tell me, in exquisite detail, exactly where you were on Sept. 11, 2001. Many mark that day as the beginning of terrorism as we now know it, but having grown up as a military dependent, I politely disagree. I’ve seen terror unfold directly in front of me, and it started long before 2001.

My home room teacher was named Mrs. Sharer, and her husband was one of those held captive in the Iranian Hostage Crisis of 1979. Yes–witnessing her grief and struggle still impact me in many ways, and I’ve written about that time in our lives here.

Since that time, I’ve quietly examined some ways we can make a difference now, to stop the power of terrorism. My conclusion is this: we need to control how we personally respond to these horrific acts. We need to stop giving the terrorists the attention they crave. By virtually witnessing these mass killings through the constant media coverage afterwards, we are drawn in to events thousands of miles away from us. Our daily lives are affected by people we will never meet, in countries we will never visit. We absorb the fear of victims who have nothing to do with us personally, which is one of the terrorist’s biggest tools. They suck as all in with the power of a ‘maybe’. I’m not saying we shouldn’t be affected. The slaughter of innocents for exposure is an act against all that is decent. We have to find a personal balance though, which will allow us to be aware, without causing us to lose perspective.

Today’s events interrupted my normal writing schedule, and I thought it important to spread some good, actionable steps you can take today, instead of being overwhelmed by the horror. More new pieces are coming soon, I promise. But right now?…

I encourage you to read this older post about terror, in response to today’s bombing.

Then get outside, for some fresh air and sunshine. Offer prayers or good thoughts for those directly affected. Hug someone you love, or be friendly to that person you regularly see, but don’t really know.

We have more power of this sort of thing than we realize, Friend. It starts with us, and how we choose to respond.

Choose carefully, please.


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  1. We truly have had it as a devastating problem for much longer Chanler, so what to do about it . We need to watch everything much closer. our surroundings , our lives , travel etc. We cannot be afraid, we just need to be mindful and sympathetic to those who have put themselves in harms way everyday to keep us safe.And stop for a moment of silence everyday for the ones who lost their lives doing their job or living their lives .

    1. I agree with you, Deb–we need to be vigilant and prepared, but we can’t be crippled by the fear. That’s their goal–to immobilize us. It’s so easy for us to be sucked in emotionally when we keep up with all of the media coverage–the backstories of the victims, the closeups of bomb sites, the interviews with survivors–these things can overwhelm our senses, in the face of already horrific facts. We need to be aware, but not overly invested with the drama. And I couldn’t agree with you more about supporting our law enforcement. Here’s an older post about exactly that! ‘To Protect and Serve’. Thank you for your thoughtful comments. I join you with prayers for peace and safety for us all. xo

  2. Hi Chanler

    It is sad indeed. What I don’t understand is why people would use such tactics? There should be a better way to resolve conflicts. Why do take lives just to make a point?

    This is sad. My heart goes to those in pain and whose lives have been in trauma due to terrorism.

    I think it is time something is done about it. Take care and have a wonderful weekend.

  3. Hi Chanler

    What a sad thing?

    You know I do not understand why people would use such tactics to resolve conflicts.

    Isn’t there a better way to solve issues? Why must we resort to killing ourselves to make a point.

    I think it is time that everyone does something about this. Killing each other will not solve the issue.

    My heart goes to those who are going through pain because of this tragedy.

  4. Hey Chanler,

    Media gives terrorism so much publicity. It’s like egging these attention seekers on. What amazes me most is when we hear that someone has taken responsibility for it. I believe there should be treaties across all media not to publish or air such news. Even if only for a trial run for a year. It will never work I know, but we can always hope.

    You’re right go out and breath in the air, know that life will be hard on those who are affected. Feel it in your heart and send out energy so as they know they are not alone and then embrace all that is wonderful in our own lives. Thanks for the reminder.


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