Small goals don’t seem very sexy, do they? We’re trained to think goals are supposed to be monumental. We’re taught to go after things like running marathons, climbing mountains, losing a hundred pounds–really massive accomplishments. That’s where we’re wrong though, and we set ourselves up for failure.
The reality is this: massive goals are all made up smaller goals, each of them knocked down one at a time.
It’s important to recognize this, to help you prevent from failing. Whatever your overall goal is, it’s smarter to break it down into smaller, more manageable pieces, and then celebrate your mini-successes along the way.
This is currently where I find myself in life.
I have an overall goal of being as healthy as possible. My emotional and psychological well-being are very important to me, as you’ve probably noticed. Over the last year or so, many of my posts have focused on those angles. Posts about being an empty-nest mom, or how to have a healthy marriage have been about finding balance in my heart and environment.
Now it’s time to focus on the physical.
Reflections on midlife changes wouldn’t be complete without thoroughly examining what happens to us physically. Yes–many of our changes are psychological and emotional, so it’s been important to focus on those.
But the physical changes we experience at this point of our lives are just as important. Our bodies are changing–again. It’s like we’re going through adolescence once more, but in reverse.
As for myself, I’ve put on weight, feel myself becoming less limber, and am experiencing other things that make me unhappy.
So in 2017, I’m going to be adding pieces about the physical changes we go through as Midlifers. I’ll still focus on the emotional and psychological things we go through, so don’t worry–the tone of the site won’t change.
I’ll simply incorporate another angle.
As usual, I’ll allow myself to be very vulnerable over the course of this year.
The first one of my small goals is to lose weight. I’ve been trying to do it on my own, and haven’t been successful. So–I’m asking for help, and I’ll share what I learn.
I’m enrolling with the Medical University of South Carolina’s Weight Management Program.
This is a serious program, and while I don’t have as much to lose as others my age, I have enough to lose that I know it will increase my happiness once I’m done with the program.
I also know it’s going to be challenging for me, and part of the reason I’m sharing this with you is for the accountability factor.
Losing weight is only one of my small goals for the year, though. I’m breaking things down into smaller pieces as I work towards my larger goal of being as healthy as I can, and will share more along the way.
What about you, Friend?
What sorts of things do you want to accomplish in the year ahead? Do you want to improve your marriage? Gain more friendships? Be less creaky in the morning? Lose weight, have a better relationship with your adult children or have better lab results at the doctor’s office?
The list of things we can decide to work towards is endless.
That’s part of the beauty of being alive.
So get a coffee, sit down with a note pad, and start sketching out some small goals for your year ahead. Please write me back and share what they are. Then together, let’s make those things happen.
As the year progresses, I’ll introduce you to experts in various fields who will help us become healthier and happier people.
These people will teach us how to eat better, move better, feel better and even look better. All of them will share my outlook of Optimism, Encouragement and Inspiration, and appreciate the complexities we experience as Midlifers.
So get ready, Friends–2017 is about to begin.
And I can’t wait.
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**Chanler Jeffers has seen many extraordinary things over her lifetime. An adventurer, survivor, overachiever and advocate of kindness in all instances, she has been awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award by the American Chamber of Commerce Executives (ACCE), and is a member of their Circle of Champions. She has had the good fortune to live and travel all over the world, grew up as a military dependent and was a single parent for many years. She has survived cancer, and gently shaped countless people over her years on this little planet we call home. Follow along as she shares her knowledge, her experience and her love. Oh, by the way–one more thing. She’s married to a Bass playing rock star, lucky girl.